Couples often wonder if it’s safe to make love during pregnancy. The answer is a resounding ‘yes’. You won’t harm the baby in any way, and you can make love as often as you want to – as far on in pregnancy as you wish.
Not every mother-to-be wants sex in pregnancy, or if she does, she finds she’s not as keen as she used to be. It’s often a question of tiredness, especially towards the end when even turning over in bed seems to require a lot of effort.
Some men, too, find they have to get used to the changing shape of their partner – though a lot of men find it sexy and womanly, and love the sensuousness of a big rounded tummy!
There are no rules about how often you should have sex in pregnancy or at any other time. Try and make it comfortable – man-on-top positions may be difficult towards the end, and many couples go for woman-on-top or ‘spoons’, when you both lie on your sides, facing the same direction. If pregnancy hormones make your vagina a little dryer than usual, use a lubricating gel like KY Jelly. In any case, there’s more to sex than intercourse, and this might be the time to let your imagination take centre stage.
Keep in physical touch with each other, even if there are times you don’t want to have sex, for whatever reason. Caressing, cuddling, kissing, stroking are ways to enjoy this special time – before the broken nights make an uninterrupted hour or so a rare luxury!